From what I've learned, there are two types of personalities one can have when going into a relationship. One, which I believe I have had and maintained through my experiences, is the personality of a loyal individual, one who knows where he or she stands independently but can submit to their relationship enough to be comfortable in a constant effort to conserve equivalence with their significant other. I decided to title these personality types the "classic partners". Classic partners have an honest approach, a want for consistency, and a need for the person they are involved with to stay in their life despite difficulties. They rarely believe in "falling out" of love, they only believe in the evolution of love. Romance could easily be replaced by a feeling security and a deep friendship.
The second personality a partner can have is something I would like to call "A butterfly seeker", however; this type of partner can have subcategories of those with well inentions and those with ill intentions, they are still in a general category of mixed emotion and mislead motives. This may be due to not knowing what exactly they want, or it can be due to a false ideal of love always having an air of cliche romance. I call this second type a butterfly seeker because often when first infatuated with someone, there has been a common misconception that feeling like there are "butterflys in the stomach" is a feeling of "falling in love." What is failed to realize is that this isn't love, it's having attraction put a shy but giddy lingering feeling in our body, a feeling that is only temporary until those feelings are traded in for comfort and protection. Butterfly seekers are the ones who become disinterested when that tickling in the stomach and lift of the spirits is gone, knowledge of the one they were once to mesmerized by isn't reward enough, and they go seeking for that natural high of "falling in love" over again.
Personally, I believe falling in love is one of the best emotions one can feel. I too love the feeling of a jump of the heart at a smile in the distance and the admiration that rushes through my veins when recieving a first kiss. But when is it acceptable to disown this want for a deeper attachment? I mean, that feeling can't POSSIBLY get boring, correct?
This is true, but we don't go into relationships wanting to just feel good and be entertained by overwelming emotion, and those who do shouldn't go into a relationship. My theory of love and my approach on relationships is very strict and logical; however, the only issue I have-- the only thing that has me up at night pondering for hours, is the potential in a butterfly seeker. Some never grow out of their lovey-dovey quest, but is it possible for one to? Is it possible to get a butterfly seekers head out of the clouds and keep them grounded, or will that butterfly seeker try to get to the level of a butterfly, high and care-free?
Butterfly seekers are the disowners, the cheaters, the ones that just want to FEEL love and not commit to it.
But how far can I push the capabilities of a person like this, and is it my responsibility to do so?
I believe I'm in love with a butterfly seeker, and because I'm a classic partner that opinion won't change.
Why is it that us classic partners are always trying to tie-down a butterfly seeker?
Why are we trying to rip them of their wings of romance?
The second personality a partner can have is something I would like to call "A butterfly seeker", however; this type of partner can have subcategories of those with well inentions and those with ill intentions, they are still in a general category of mixed emotion and mislead motives. This may be due to not knowing what exactly they want, or it can be due to a false ideal of love always having an air of cliche romance. I call this second type a butterfly seeker because often when first infatuated with someone, there has been a common misconception that feeling like there are "butterflys in the stomach" is a feeling of "falling in love." What is failed to realize is that this isn't love, it's having attraction put a shy but giddy lingering feeling in our body, a feeling that is only temporary until those feelings are traded in for comfort and protection. Butterfly seekers are the ones who become disinterested when that tickling in the stomach and lift of the spirits is gone, knowledge of the one they were once to mesmerized by isn't reward enough, and they go seeking for that natural high of "falling in love" over again.
Personally, I believe falling in love is one of the best emotions one can feel. I too love the feeling of a jump of the heart at a smile in the distance and the admiration that rushes through my veins when recieving a first kiss. But when is it acceptable to disown this want for a deeper attachment? I mean, that feeling can't POSSIBLY get boring, correct?
This is true, but we don't go into relationships wanting to just feel good and be entertained by overwelming emotion, and those who do shouldn't go into a relationship. My theory of love and my approach on relationships is very strict and logical; however, the only issue I have-- the only thing that has me up at night pondering for hours, is the potential in a butterfly seeker. Some never grow out of their lovey-dovey quest, but is it possible for one to? Is it possible to get a butterfly seekers head out of the clouds and keep them grounded, or will that butterfly seeker try to get to the level of a butterfly, high and care-free?
Butterfly seekers are the disowners, the cheaters, the ones that just want to FEEL love and not commit to it.
But how far can I push the capabilities of a person like this, and is it my responsibility to do so?
I believe I'm in love with a butterfly seeker, and because I'm a classic partner that opinion won't change.
Why is it that us classic partners are always trying to tie-down a butterfly seeker?
Why are we trying to rip them of their wings of romance?
Is it possible for them to change for us?
Is it worth it? Will they be happy?
Will we ever be?
Is it worth it? Will they be happy?
Will we ever be?
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